Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am

We agree to you… i dunno. Its hard. I simply know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.

Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to you will need to speak to her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.

Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am

And in addition, just exactly just what would you want to bet that he’s feeding their brand new gf the complete “crazy ex” routine to spell out why they talk most of the time? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?

Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july

I’m able to realise why you’d believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the letter to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, maybe perhaps not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can simply get a grip on her very own actions, and overlook the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. Their relationship with new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the two girls don’t need to be buddies at all. It might you need to be yet another url to the man when it comes to LW, that is attempting to cut ties that are emotional.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july

Thats an excellent point for sure!

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am

Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies with this specific band of dudes whom accustomed have such lady-issues, and all the girls they dated would get crazy to them after a few weeks and I’d get actually astonished, cos they seemed so normal in my experience? Then we realised it ended up beingn’t the girls, its the inventors. Together with girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, wished to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am

Yea. Its love, as soon as that occurs enough times- what’s the denominator that is common? YOU MAY BE!!

I do feel harmful to this new GF. She deserves to possess a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW because she is being told by the guy a lot of crap about her. Its just all incorrect. The whole thing.

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am

I’m bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the very first gf after a long relationship, but thats really why a lot of people go into all of them with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to end dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july

Yeah that “but I have a girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He wishes the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”

Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july

Yea, its like whenever i was in senior high school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up any other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.

Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july

@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight to get straight straight back together”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july

I’ve said right right right here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other method. I’m sure therefore men that are many use that word to full cover up because of their dickish behavior.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am

We don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy when you look at the place that is first. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am

Additionally, if you should be prepared to phone somebody crazy, wouldn’t which means that you will be kinda crazy too?

Rilooyah July 17, 2012, 4:44 pm

Therefore real! When the” that is“crazy down, Im operating one other means. I do believe it had been stated above- once you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is constantly YOU, friend.

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july

The truth is, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he’s in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely could be upset about this too, and yet she continues to answer this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.

Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am

Yep! We totally agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman since your simply likely to cause drama. You must just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also that you know he has a girlfriend is making you a bad guy in this too though you still like his attention, the fact.

Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july

That is a great point, you guys. I didnt think about it like this.

So LW, if you probably do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I like you, eljay) said, somebody has got to function as the adult in this case. If he could be perhaps not ready to be, you should do it.

Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm

Amen bestie – we trust you about talking to your gf. That knows exactly just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their speaking many times, but although the relationship is none of these company, the truth that the LW as well as the brand new gf have actually met now i believe enables the LW some freedom. If I’d held it’s place in a situation where a buddy brought somebody around that I experienced heard of and wished to be friends with (I’m planning to assume that the LW desires that? ) and it went horribly, i would touch base and get, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly. She does not fundamentally need certainly to state, “Hey, so that your boyfriend happens to be saying _____ for me and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you had been fine with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became beneath the impression you had been ok with your being friends, but i simply noticed I’m maybe maybe not fine with your being friends either, so that it’s no problem anymore. ”

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am

I’dn’t speak with the gf relating to this. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to only lads login me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And simply to share with you you respect her relationship? I would personally think you’re bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex you don’t desire to hear them alone from him for a while, and then leave. Seriously they probably won’t work-out because you may be nevertheless into the photo (which does not do great things for a fresh relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am

Oh in addition, that we leave immediately if I were the new girlfriend and my bf and I ran into his ex at a bar I would also demand. It’s therefore uncomfortable. Every person pretends they can be “mature” and stay friends with exes and stay totally okay whenever your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:28 am july